What the hell is the deal with some women lately using children as a means of income? They make it worse for legit mothers out there trying to earn a living by setting a bad example. If a woman decides to pop out one child with one man, the guy pays, say, $100.00 a week. If they have two children with one man, the guy pays $140.00 a week. Well, some women have caught on to this and said to themselves “well shit, I can get more money if I get knocked up by several guys”. The sad part is that they’re right. If a woman has two kids with two different guys, she gets $200.00 a week (just pretend for a moment both guys make the same wages). If she has four kids with four different men, that’s $400.00 a week. The way the law states, she’s only “awarded” $220.00 a week for four kids by the same guy. Let’s discuss all the ways that this is just not right shall we?
#1: Ever notice how the woman always gets custody of the kid/kids? Even if the men fight for the kids, they have to do just that…fight to get the kids. That’s because the “mother” has to basically be proven to be a drug-using, murderer of nuns before the court even thinks about finding them “unfit”. Meanwhile, the guys get the shit end of the stick. Hell, even “mothers” who murder their own children get their kids back after they get out of prison. Look at the lady who scalded her 4 year old girl to death and got only two years in prison. When she got out, SHE GOT HER OTHER KIDS BACK! WHAT THE HELL?!
#2: If a guy actually does get custody, women can get out of paying as much child support much easier. They can just quit their job and leech off of another man, meanwhile only paying the minimum of $8.00 a week in child support. Men can’t leech off of women because most of the time we’re depended on to be the breadwinner, so good luck on shacking up with a woman who will let you not work. Yet, it’s perfectly acceptable for a woman to stay home and be a “housewife”.
#3: If a guy misses a child support payment or if the state misplaces their payment, the children can be kept from seeing the guy. Last I knew, this was called kidnapping and demanding a ransom, but apparently it’s not in this scenario. If I were to take your kid away and say “give me $100.00 a week or you don’t see your kid”, I would imagine the cops would be at my door arresting me – not the person who wants to see their kid.
#4: Why is child support so damn high anyways?! I’ve heard arguments such as “Well, the child was used to a certain lifestyle before the divorce, so the extra money is to maintain that lifestyle”. Bullshit. What if the father lost his job while the mother and father were married? Who would “maintain that lifestyle” then? I’ve also heard the argument “Well, the child needs a roof over their head, so this provides a home for the child”. Really? So the mother wouldn’t need to make enough money to put a roof over her own head if the children weren’t there then? Once again – bullshit.
#5: My sister. Her ex lost his job and couldn’t pay her $120.00 a week for their two kids together which means she couldn’t go bar and bed hopping. Since the kids were of no use to her any longer (believe me, she didn’t exactly care for them before), she sent them packing to their dad’s house. Does she pay him child support? HELL NO. She has a job making money under the table and doesn’t even pay the minimum $8.00 a week, yet she can have her nails done and a new car in the driveway. Oh yeah, she’s 28 and still lives with my mother. There’s a shining example of a “good mother” right? Well, the courts awarded to kids to her in the first place even though her ex tried to get custody, so it must’ve been the right decision…right?
#6: Women should be required to work at least 40 hours a week if she doesn’t have custody of her kids, that way she’ll be paying a decent amount like any guy would have to. Hey, a guy can’t just up and stop working 40 hours a week after he loses custody. If he does that, he’s still responsible for paying the full amount and can be taken to jail, so hold women to the same standards. Maybe that’ll give them some incentive to not have 8 illigitimate children running around.
#7: How in the hell does a guy who’s married have to pay child support on a kid that was actually conceived when she screwed around with another guy. I’ve been hearing of this happening a lot lately. There was a case in Texas that only one of the four kids a woman had ended up being her husband’s. The other three were by two different men – it was even proven via DNA! Yet, he still has to pay child support for all four kids. You know what this tells me? I think someone should knock that judge’s wife up…we’ll see if the judge changes his mind after that one. After all, he set the precendent in the courts.
I’m just sick and tired of guys that I know who are good fathers getting hosed by their ex because she can’t support herself.
When I meet a really young guy who says he wants to have kids with his girlfriend I cringe. After the abuse I impose upon him, I tell him to get a vascetamy or just give me the $100.00 a week that way he’ll be used to it before he has to start handing the cash over to her. Get a job.